A recent Wall Street Journal piece focused on Gen Xers (born between 1965 and 1980) and divorce. As the author points out, this is the generation defined by divorce: nearly half of Gen Xers grew up in split households, and roughly 40% were latch-key kids. It’s no wonder, then, that Gen Xers, now married with their own families, are more determined than ever to get it right.
Learning From the Past, in Marriage and Divorce
Contrary to popular belief, children of divorced households aren’t necessarily headed for a failed marriage themselves. The article points out that, for the first time in over two decades, the divorce rate has dipped. Recent census data shows that the early wave of Gen Xers married in the early 1990’s have stayed married past the 10-year mark. Gen Xers are loathe to put their kids through what they themselves have endured as neglected children, shuttled from household to household. But divorce still happens. Gen Xers, like their parents, lead complicated, dual career lives that present multiple challenges when trying to navigate around the competing demands of jobs and kids. When the marriage breaks down, the Gen X couple, who themselves suffered the pain and emptiness of divorce, is again determined to “get it right”.
For Gen Xers, Mediation Makes for Better Co-Parenting
This generation that has a laser focus on its own children is very attuned to the effect of divorce on kids because they themselves lived through it. More and more, Gen Xers are turning to mediation to negotiate their separation and divorce to help reduce the negative impact of the transition on their kids. That’s good news for the children since a University of Virginia study has shown that divorce mediation does what mediators have long been saying it does – it fosters better communication between the parents, allowing them to stay actively engaged in their kids’ lives as parents co-parents. (Also read our previous article, Divorce Mediation Makes Better Parents).
Create A Parenting Plan!
If you’re a Gen Xer (and even if you’re not), you want mediation to help you lay the groundwork for cooperative co-parenting, so that you can continue to give your kids a grounded and balanced childhood, even if they have two homes. We are experienced at working with parents who lead complex lives – professional moms and dads with multiple kids and complicated parenting arrangements – and we understand your interest in making sure that your children go on to lead healthy, secure and balanced lives with continued access and support from both parents, despite your break-up. Contact us for information on how we can help you create (or revise) a co-parenting plan that will help you ‘get it right’ so you can remain actively involved parents for your kids.